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Godly Fatherhood: Embracing Lessons from Imperfect Fathers

Father’s Day, 2024 – 5 years since my earthly father passed (posting this morning from the great state of Washington without my laptop. If you notice errors please bear with me, posting from the phone is a challenge. I will edit and add links ASAP).

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I wish this morning was harder. I wish this was as hard as Mother’s days are.

But it is not – not by a long shot.

People make choices and live the lives they want to live. Meanwhile, the rest of live in their wake…making our own choices.

We cannot help that their choices influence our choices, but ultimately our choices are OURS.

And we, along with the people we’ve asked into our lives, have to live in that reality.

My theme the last couple weeks has circled around the idea that what we think about oursleves, positive or negative, is largely due to the impact someone else has had on our life and what we do with those thoughts.

The main idea being, what God says about us is infinitely more important than what others have said or the lies we repeat to ourselves.

For many, those thoughts, ideas and lies were given to us by our fathers.

On a day like today, where we honor our fathers, it breaks my heart that I cannot earnestly wish to spend even one more minute with my father – it sucks to say this, but I never had a “dad”.

I am a bit envious of those of you that have that. Tell that man you love him!

I pray, often, that my kid dosen’t grow to feel that way about me.

So, because I believe that even in the bad, God can make it good – see Romams 8:28 (link to be added) and that even people’s bad intentions can be used by God – see Genesis 50:20 (again, link to be added) the lessons I learned about what NOT to do as a father are just as valuable.

The beautifully amazing thing is that NONE of the struggles I have had with the man that I could only refer to as “Pop” were a surprise to God.

God called me to him when I was 9, so I have had my perfect heavenly father for most of my life.

And knowing what he knows, he placed me in a situation where I would have access to Godly fathers and “fathers to be” who have helped me work through some of the things that “Pop” was never around for.

I am greatful for God and the dads he’s given me, the positive and the negative.

So, celebrate your fathers today, whether by birth or circumstance, and remember our heavenly, the ULTIMATE, father, The LORD our God.

I’d love to chat about your experiences with your father’s, the good bad and the ugly. We can process together.

Seeking Comfort in Change: Embracing Hardship for Spiritual Growth

People say things like “change happens” and “change is inevitable (like Thanos).”

But they also say, “the more things change the more they stay the same.”

Wait, what? Is it just me or is that one dumb?

What You Think Doesn’t Matter

What if what you think doesn’t matter?

I mean, what you think of yourself.

Ouch! That’s harsh.

It is a kind of a hard thing to say, even to think.

But I believe it’s true.

Discovering What the Market Wants: A Personal Journey

Man, I am just not feeling it, you know?

You’ve been there, right?

I didn’t post yesterday, in part because I was REALLY sick, still under the weather today but, wow, the difference being able to breathe through your nose makes!

YIKES!

Not Who But Whose

I have spent a good portion of my adult life, regretting my adult life. Too much really. To many hours spent rummaging through the boxes of “what ifs.” The seemingly endless memories of people telling me I cannot do something, should not bother trying, not cut out for this or that… It is exhausting

Stop Living “Less Than” Lives

The last couple weeks, I have been going through an old writing folder I came across and it’s weird to me some of the things I was writing this part of the year – 10 FULL years ago.

The scary part is, that unfortunately for me, MANY of the themes and sentences are the EXACT same as I have been saying to myself recently – despite my attempts at changing the way I think/speak.

That is a much bigger project than one might believe but it is one that I will not quit.

Is It God’s Will or MY Desire?

Why do I write?

Beside the fact that God’s given me the ability?

Or has He simply given me the desire to write?

Or do I just like writing and worked to develop the skill?

When I got here, I could not walk. I learned that. Do I ever contemplate walking for God?

Misjudged – A Baseball Story

I was going through some old folders, the same one where I found the making of Time – A Short Story (I’d love for you to check that out, Part I, Part II and Part III are here, well, there if you follow those links). The thing about this week’s story is that I never played baseball and never really wanted to but my dad?

Well, he’s another story.

To hear him and my grandparents tell it, sky was the limit for him. He played with the older kids because he intimidated his age group – and the kids he did play with…they didn’t like it either.

He was that good.

So, this is a sort of homage to my “pops.” He cannot read it, he is no longer with us.

I hope he passed knowing I loved him.

This may not be exactly his story – but it could be yours or someone you know.

Do not let your fear or disappointment keep you from being what God made you.

Time Travel Via Word Doc or Dear Younger Self

Have you ever looked back on your life and thought, “man, I’d like to warn my younger self about life”?

I have, in fact, before I started this post, I was getting ready to write my 19 years old self a letter with the hope that my present-day self would glean some much need insight into moving forward.

What Would We Do Without the “World’s Dumbest”?

Have you ever screwed up?

Ever screwed up so bad you felt sympathy for the chuckleheads on that show, “World’s Dumbest (fill in the blank)?

Well, I didn’t USED to but things change, right?

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I’ll spare you, and me, the humiliating details of my screw up but it got me thinking that perhaps, some of our screw ups are God’s way of teaching us lessons that we clearly wouldn’t have learned otherwise.

I am convinced, in fact, that in God’s sovereignty, He allows us to do and things happen that are outside our control but serve His will.

Romans 8;28 says, “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”

I have always understood this to mean, all the bad things that ever happened or will ever happen, but specifically times when we have been wronged.

I believe it also includes times we are wrong.

It includes those times we put ourselves in a position to end up on an embarrassing television show and be used by God to further His ultimate plan.

I see it as a form of judgment. I mean, God is patient, merciful and kind but even His grace has an expiration date for the unrepentant.

Please don’t read that to mean there is ANY limit on God’s grace, but scripture says in 1 Peter 4:17, “For the time is come that judgment must begin at the house of God: and if it first begin at us, what shall the end be of them that obey not the gospel of God?” (Emphasis mine)

There will be a judgment and it will start with the people of God.

I also believe that sometimes that “good” can come in the form of the previously mentioned “lesson” that God will use

I am reminded of the patience of the Lord and His willingness to give multiple chances to those that He does not want to see parish.

It reminds me of Jonah.

God tells Jonah to go and preach in Ninevah to the Assyrians – a bad group of folks.

Jonah loved the idea so much, he jumped right inside the nearest whale and sailed right there…actually, he boarded a ship headed the opposite direction.

Can you blame him? Those folks were notably an evil and cruel people. Let ‘em rot!

The sailors on the ship figured out something was off as their ship was getting ready to sink, determined it was Jonah’s fault and threw him overboard. Then he’s swallowed by a “big fish” and spit out right on the shores of, you guessed it…Ninevah.

But this post isn’t about obedience or Jonah…it’s about repentance and God’s patience.

When warned about the coming destruction, the people of Ninevah did the unthinkable, they repented.

The impact was so great, that Jesus used them as a warning to Pharisees when he spoke to them about their unbelief.

I bet they loved being compared to those people.

Of course, a generation after Jonah’s visit, the Assyrians still had to be dealt with and God judged them – but that is for another post…eventually.

The point is, when presented with their need to repent, they did.

Will you?

Will I?

You bet your britches I am and not just for the next generation. Well, I’ll be gone by then most likely but in the short term, best believe, I am A repenting!

The other point is that God is patient with us all.

Praise Him that HE is!

 The Assyrians had a long time to become the abomination they they’d turned into. Generations to become a large nation, capital city, wealthy, evil, sadistic, you know, the usual…but when told they had to change…again, THEY DID!

Same question…

Will you?

Will I?

Take a guess.

As I mentioned before, they eventually fell back into their old ways and when God had enough, passed judgement, as only he can and…Jesus still used them as an example of repentance!

All that to say, God is merciful and patient and will give you and I multiple opportunities to get our act together – but at some point, he will take action.

We better change for good, before, He acts, for our good.

What are your thoughts on God’s patience, our (and other’s) repentance? Or anything else you’d like to mention. The stage is yours.

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