If you’re struggling with your self-confidence, believe me, I GET IT!
I have spent way too many hours discouraged and disgusted by what should be a strong point for me.
It should be a massive source of strength for me.
Read more: 2 Crazy Tricks to Build Your Self-ConfidenceI mean, I, according to Scripture, I am made in the image of God – if that doesn’t give you confidence, you might want to get your blood pressure checked.
Unfortunately, we’re programmed by the world not only to question but to doubt our
God-likeness, and for that matter, our God.
It’s the plan of the enemy to move us closer to him. He knows he cannot touch us without permission, but he can cause us to think we’re less than we are, deserve less than we deserve and that we’re guilty of sin that have been forgiven and forgotten.
He is capable of blocking us from our blessing…IF we let him
In some cases, he will convince us we don’t deserve what God has promised us in his word, and since God has not changed, why would we not believe we’re entitled to what He says we are?
So, why is it that so many of us struggle with our self-confidence?
It has everything to do with the thing we lack.
Wait, we only lack one thing to have self-confidence…tell me more.
Ok, I will…
First, what is confidence?
Well, it’s the “feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.”
Read those last 7 words again…
Well, here, a little gift from me…
RELY ON SOMEONE OR SOMETHING; FIRM TRUST – sorry for shouting but I really want you to get this – it could change your life…
Your lack of self-confidence, my lack of the same, is all rooted in the FACT that we do not trust ourselves.
Did you catch that? Go ahead and read it again, I had to hear a couple times before I got it…and I am not sure I totally get it now. However, I get it enough to act on it and share my understanding with you…
My question for you is, how can we even be expected to trust ourselves?
As one my “unaware mentors”, Dr. Myron Golden teaches, “you don’t trust yourself because you’re the only person that has heard every lie you’ve ever told.”
BAM!
Stings, right?
It did me when I chose to own that statement.
Now, wait…before you let yourself off the hook and say, “Hey Mick, I don’t lie.”
We both know you have lied. We all have, we all do and we will continue until we decide to make a change in our lives.
The lies, though, they don’t have to be in the pursuit of self-preservation, “I didn’t eat the last cookie, “You look nice in that,” or, “I didn’t watch that video,” we all tell those types of lies, or we have and the thing is, they continue to live in our minds.
But there are other lies, lies that we tell ourselves.
Have you ever said you’d do something then didn’t? Have you ever set a goal and didn’t follow through?
I am going to learn to play and instrument, learn a new language, write a book, lose weight, save money, exercise?
Any of those sound familiar?
Most of them came from my mouth and I am sure from yours too.
And yeah, those count as lies too because our brains have no sense of humor…which is tough for a guy like me….
They just don’t know how to take a joke.
They, like a child, believe what you tell them and just like kids, they know when you don’t follow through and it erodes their confidence.
Same with our brains. You lack self-confidence because you say you’re going to do a thing and you’ve programmed your brain to say, “yeah, right, whatever dude, you haven’t and you won’t.”
Your brain knows and acts accordingly.
That’s part of the reason when you earnestly want to do something, your thoughts get all negative, because you don’t believe that you really even want to do, said thing, you dwell too long on the negative and, oooops, once again you’ve gone back on your word.
Welcome to the self-fulling prophecy carousel – hope you like the ride!
THE ANSWER
So, now that you know how and why you’re killing the confidence you should have, would you like to know the 2 Crazy ways to Build your self-confidence?
It’s really simple and obvious – at least it will be – and you might have already guessed where I am going…
Ready?
1,2, abracadabra…
STOP LYING TO YOURSELF AND DO WHAT YOU SAY!
Now, before you get indignant, remember back at the beginning, I said I struggle with this too…
Guess that means I have to stop lying to myself too, huh?
That’s part of the reason you’re reading this, because I had to write this, for us both.
NEXT STEPS
This could mean different things for each of us – to give you an idea of how to start, try doing the very next thing you say you’ll do – to completion.
Sure, some things may be out of reach, astronaut, rock star or champion body builder…
Going forward, I am going to make myself believe the only thing impossible for me, will be that anything is impossible for me.
It will be a difficult climb but if I can learn to depend on myself, learn to trust me again and learn to rebuild my self-confidence…it’ll be worth the climb.
Ready to start up the hill with me?
Mick Holt 
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