That guy you dated for WAY too long, the girl you dumped WAY too soon, a class you wanted to take, a movie you wanted to see maybe you zigged when you should have zagged? I bet you have your own that you’re already thinking about.
If you’re like me, you cannot even begin to count the wasted hours replaying each scenario over and over in your head trying to see if you can fix what you didn’t do right the first time – as if.
Reminds me of the Seinfeld episode where George comes up with the snappy comeback about the “Jerk Store” and spends the rest of the episode trying to get the guy to insult him again –now there’s another post for ya, “How Often Do We Look for Ways to get People to Think Less of Us?”
OK, I‘ll work on that one later for now back to the “Jerk Store” (I love that show by the way).
I guess the real question is, does any of it really matter?
The answer simply put is, no. Not unless you let it.
And that can be the big issue too, right? We let it be an issue and I think we do that because it is what we know, it’s like an old jacket – comfortable, a bit worn perhaps but when it’s cold outside it’s what we reach for.
It is our habit and that is why we cannot shake it because it is what we do.
So, what are we supposed to do with these old bad habits? Well, it would be great if we could just forget them or remove them but I don’t think we want to do that. Well, I KNOW we don’t WANT to do that.
In the 1989 film Star Trek V – The Final Frontier, Captain Kirk covers this very thing,
“You know that pain and guilt can’t be taken away with the wave of a magic wand. They’re things we carry with us, the things that make us who we are. …If we lose them, we lose ourselves. I don’t want my pain taken away. I need my pain.”
Can I just say, this was tremendously hard to find – how in the world did we get stuff done before the internets?
Kirk is right and wrong; we need our pain, our mistakes but only as a source of information and sometimes motivation.
We need the knowledge gained from our mistakes so we can make better decisions in the future and with any luck have less pain to show for it. That’s how he’s right.
Here’s how he’s wrong, God will take away all our pain, all our regret and the guilt of everything we have ever done and make us NEW – that’s what his word promises.
God can and will do all of that yet we retain the knowledge of our past and use it to grow.